Hmm, this is an interesting topic for this particular forum. It's a little random. On that note, I will humbly disagree with you; I may not be an expert, per se, but I am a woman. I will tell you that most woman do not make that tremendously difficult decision because they have nothing going on that weekend, for most it is the most difficult and heart-wrenching decision they will ever have to make. There are so many reasons and factors that go into the decision-making process, all of which you might not ever comprehend. I am not here to make you understand, in fact, when it comes to this sort of topic, most people have their minds made up and won't budge. I understand that, I know I can't and won't change how I feel about it. If this is something you find unfathomable, that is how you feel. I would suggest men talk to their girlfriends before they get in bed, make sure everything is on the table and that they are on the same page; it doesn't quite work if you are on different sides of the fence when it comes to life-changing decisions. I just wanted to write to you and let you know that a lot goes on in the minds of women who have to go through with an abortion, it's emotionally painful and will always be a part of their life story. It's not something you do last minute and with malicious; there's a reason she came to that decision. Let women have that option to do what they need to do, if you don't like it, let your spouse know how you feel and everyone else's life choices should not be of your concern. : )

Well said, Janella. May I add that, in my opinion, this kind of discussion should take place BEFORE the couple engages in a sexual relationship. As well, there are too many variables to assume why a woman makes her choice, one way or the other. But ultimately, it IS her choice. Whether she involves the partner in that decision is also her choice, but she must understand and be willing to accept the consequences of her choices.